Even shrinks crave BDSM sex

A psychologist who enjoys BDSM sex. Is that statement so hard to believe? Does it seem contradictory? That a person who studies human, social and/or cognitive behavior could enjoy such a pleasure. If you allow me, I will attempt to explain how, and why it might not be so hard to understand after all. Under normal conditions, most individuals have the capacity to separate business from pleasure. An on-off switch if you will, specifically as it relates to sex. Nature has designed this for a few reasons. But manly, it helps to maintain focus, without the idea of sex as a distraction. The other reason has more to do with man’s perception of his or herself. As we understand that sex draws its energy primarily from the more animalistic side of humanity. A side we so desperately try to distinguish ourselves from every day, making every attempt to hide the shame, and feeling of disgust as we try to rationalize this behavior using conventional methods. That is a big contributor to why most embrace the on-off switch philosophy. Not necessarily just to separate the two, but to keep from being overly critical, as we judge our own character, based solely on our sexual desires. But the 3^rd, and more important reason the on-off switch exist. It allows us to dive deep into our sexual appetites, without the shame or feeling, often described as a guilty pleasure. It allows us to separate, who we are in the professional world, to who we become in the BDSM world. Behind closed doors we can construct any pleasurable fantasy we think of, indulge in fetishes, role play, all within this world we created for ourselves. A world where we are free to be who, or whatever we chose. The “normal” rules of psychology and social behavior do not exist within this “disconnect” reality. And for that simple, yet natural reason, even a psychologist, a studier of minds can divide his or herself into, two very different people. With two very different desires, while at the same time understanding how and why they both can exist. Allowing them to take full pleasure and enjoyment of the BDSM lifestyle. Thanks for reading